Ready to start parenting your Child with Calm?
Today I want to share with you 3 Important factors you need to take note of:
If you want to parent with Calm, you have to be grateful for the children you have. I’ve seen a lot of Parents with Children wanting their Child to be more outspoken and some wanting their children to be the quiet type.
The truth is, you have to be grateful for the child in front of you, accept them for who they are because, when you do, you will appreciate your child more for the things he/she gets right and stop focusing more on the things they do wrong. So, the first place to start is Gratitude
Be grateful for the Child God has given you – both in good and bad times. Always look out for the good things your child is doing so that you can be more grateful for them
This means learning to be in the present moment and understand that you cannot do anything about the past neither can you tell the future. The only thing you have is the present moment. When your child behaves wrongly or does something, instead of going back to the past to recount every other thing they’ve done in the past or getting afraid of how their behaviour can affect their future, you can learn to focus on the behaviour that is in front of you, learn how to deal with it here and now and start creating the future that you want instead of living in the fear of what could happen in the future. Such fears can make you parent your child from a place of reactivity.
I really cannot overemphasize this important factor. The root cause of our reactivity lies in the unmet needs of our Childhood, all the traumatic situations that we were exposed to in our advanced Childhood. Until we start to address all these things, we might still be stuck in the circle of reactivity because our past experiences leave us needy and this neediness drive us to a place of fear and make us parent our children from a place of fear and reactivity. So, until we start to heal ourselves, start to practice practice presence and be more grateful for the child we have, we may not be able to parent with calm.
Here’s a bonus tip: You need some strategies and skills if you truly want to parent with calm. Skills & Strategies for communication so that your children will easily cooperate with you, as well as skills for organizing yourself and teaching your child discipline
When you are able to get all of these factors together, then it will be easy for you to parent with calm. That’s why I want to invite you to join us for the 30-Day Parenting with Calm Challenge to learn more and implement the Parenting with Calm Framework and you can start experiencing a peaceful home with better behaved children. Get started by downloading your copy of the Parenting with Calm Easy Guide.