One of the biggest challenges we have as parents is spending quality time with our children especially when we’re faced with busy schedules.
In this episode of my youtube Channel, I talked about parent-child relationship and bonding as parenting tool you can use to influence your child positively while helping them improve their behaviour.
It is absolutely true that we are living in a fast paced world with so many things calling for our attention and unlike before, both Mothers & Fathers have to work hard to support the family. Most times it feels like 24 hours per day is not even enough. BUT, we shouldn’t be slaves of our time, rather we should be Masters of our time. We create time for things that are important to us and our Children are super important to us.
One thing we can do is to develop our mindset on the fact that our Kids are very important us and as such we have to make them our top priority by creating time to bond with them regardless of the realities of our busy schedules.
There are people who genuinely want to spend more time with their children but they don’t know how to create the time. Does that sound like you? If yes, I completely understand you because I have been in this situation before in 2016 when I got a job that required me to set up an eye clinic. I loved the job and was happy to take up the Challenge but my daughter was 2 years old that year and I was nursing her while working from home. This situation was really challenging for me because I love to be hands-on with parenting my Kids and I equally love to work…with a sense of purpose. Asides this, my family needed the money so the job was non-negotiable.
If your current realities are not giving you the opportunity to to spend quality time with your Kids, I understand how it feels. One thing that helped me when I found myself in that same situation was something I created which I now call the First 15-minutes Rule. The job I had in 2016 made me work outside my home. I had a 2-year old who needed my full attention but I was working all day and sometimes I get home when it was almost time for dinner. I was spending little or no time with my daughter but thankfully my husband had a more flexible role at his workplace and was more available. This, however, did not really solve my problem because I really wanted to spend more quality time with my daughter so I had to find a way to make it work.
This led me to create the First 15-minute Rule which has helped me tremendously in diminishing the guilt that I felt for not spending quality time with my child, helped me become present with my child, know what is going on in my Child’s life and also helped me feel connected with her.
Want to learn about the First 15-minute rule I applied to create time to bond with my child? Read my Blogpost on How to Create time to Bond with your Child using the First 15-Minute Rule.